[Love Life] Lover's Quarrel

Straight roads are boring! Happiness comes after sadness.

I have so many things to talk about and so many limitations! My passion is to eternalize my most precious lessons in life in this blog and I am so behind.
You can do this Yasashii!
By the way, I can really see myself writing blogs as my full-time job LOL!

Today's topic is about lover's quarrel.

Ladies and gentlemen who have not been in love, I really encourage you to fall in love with another human being. Being in love is one of the wonders of life. If  LIFE is a course at a university, love is definitely a compulsory subject. You have not lived life fully if you have not fallen in love. Falling in love not only teaches you about the other person, you will get to know yourself better at the end of the day.
Why couples fight? 

Basically, you have two people with different ideologies, experiences and their own unique views on life. This couple is bound to have an argument no matter how big.


Finding a common ground

The fight would start with one of you sulking, it does not matter whether you are wrong or right.
First person to reach out is the weakest/strongest depending on your situation. So assess your situation wisely. The key to a successful relationship is to maintain the balance.

In a situation where none of you is giving up, the first to reach out is the weaker one. It is okay to be the weak, however, being the person to always give up will make your significant other think that you cannot continue living without her approval. He/She will get bored and will leave you. Like I said before, loving relationship is dynamic.

Solution: Outsmart Your SO 
Learn how to outsmart the game, you have to pick his/her brain. Stimulate.
At the end of this process, your relationship will grow.
 The last offense is to let him/her go. Accept the fact that is there is no chemistry between you two.

[REPEAT]

You would find many people saying the key to a healthy relationship is communication I do not think that is the case, communication is just a medium. There is such a thing called personality. The truth is hard to swallow, we should not encourage young couples to 'communicate and resolve things like adults'.

We are too naive in believing that we can sacrifice some part of our identity to make space for some stranger. Do not be afraid to let go of that person that always hurt you. He/She won't change believe it or not. Leaving someone for your future should not be painful, we should teach the future generation not to be afraid to leave their abusive partners

I wish all the best for you lovebirds! 

yasashii